On Friday nights, I co-host Love Liberty and Lip Gloss for the Writestream Radio Network with two lovely women: Lisa Tarves, host of Just Believe on Sundays at 7 p.m. and her daughter Kristyn Fetterman. Intended to be a fun, lifestyle-oriented call-in program, each week on Love Liberty and Lip Gloss we bring on a guest to opine on a particular topic of interest to women — from dealing with difficult people to internet dating and everything in-between.
The show came into existence late last year when Lisa and I had a brainstorming session and decided we needed something in the programming line-up with more of a pop-culture vibe. Together we came up with the name to reflect the fact that we’re all American women and to denote three major areas of a woman’s life:
- LOVE – relationships, spirituality
- LIBERTY – travel, financial freedom, independence, career
- LIP GLOSS – fashion, make-up, skincare, hairstyles, home decor
Understanding the importance of pop-culture in determining our elected leadership and ultimately the direction of the country, this would also be my opportunity to give voice to the oft-maligned or flat-out ignored female: the simultaneously feminine, pro-life, pro-American, traditional marriage-supporting, football-loving, Constitution-upholding, make-up wearing, career-oriented female.
Because according to our purposefully biased pop culture and media, these women simply do not exist.
That’s one of the major reasons why a truly independent, successful, gorgeous, fit, healthy, glamorous, smart, accomplished, confident wife, mother-of-five and grandmother of two like Sarah Palin absolutely terrifies the overseers of our cultural rot and degradation. It’s also why they have relentlessly smeared, attacked, vilified and outright lied about her from the moment she burst onto the national political stage and posed the first credible threat to their carefully constructed female victimhood propaganda — and their false messiah.
Well that, and also because she actually chose life for her youngest offspring, fully aware of the physical and mental challenges he’d face, and the special added responsibilities that would define her role as mom while raising a child with Down syndrome. So in spite of the fact that Sarah Palin was everything pop culture and the media claimed women should be, do, and have, she committed an unpardonable sin. She actually walked her pro-life talk.
Also unpardonable? The fact that she’s been happily married to the same man — with whom she shares a loving, egalitarian partnership — her entire life. And that whenever she speaks of Todd, their marriage and their family, she absolutely glows. She doesn’t bitch, whine or complain about Todd’s many shortcomings, or about how men in general are stupid, mean, unenlightened and hopelessly inferior to women — all of whom, according to this mini mindset, are perfect creatures whose only human flaw is that they give way too much of themselves to others and always put themselves last.
Look, I’m not suggesting that there aren’t women who need to be more assertive. Or who are truly victimized by immoral neanderthals who believe their only function is to cook, clean and birth children. But the reality is, most American women live pretty damned good lives (just ask any woman living under genuine oppression in a Muslim country). And there are plenty of charities and support systems in place to help those in need. Ironically, said support systems also include compassionate crisis-pregnancy centers which are also demonized by the self-proclaimed champions of all that is female. Heaven forbid these organizations guide a woman to give her baby up for adoption to a loving, childless couple instead of having an abortion.
Oh yes, they ostensibly believe in choice. It’s just that some choices are more equal than others.
But back to my point (I do have one, I promise).
Sarah Palin truly is a living embodiment of female empowerment. But if you’re a non-political junkie American woman, you wouldn’t know that unless you purposely took the time to cut through the pop culture BS and made a concerted effort to get the facts. Because in a female-dominated society enraptured by buzz words like “empowerment”, “self-care”, “independence” and “choice”, a real feminist like Palin is Enemy #1. Apparently, if you’re a woman, the only acceptable way to actualize the aforementioned concepts is if you are pro-abortion, pro-immorality, pro-big government and pro-gay marriage.
Which brings me to last night’s show. We interviewed a delightful guest, Barbara McNally, author of the book Unbridled. It’s a memoir of her journey from beleaguered housewife to liberated woman after suffering through a marriage to a man who didn’t value her contributions, including the fact that she’d sustained him on his road to success. I’ve seen similar stories play out with women I know personally, and I’m not denying the existence of bad men. I’m simply reacting to this notion that somehow ALL women are noble creatures while MOST men are slime. Having been through my share of disappointing relationships, it would be very easy to fall into that trap. But to be fair, Barbara brought up an excellent point in the interview — the person you become in a relationship determines its value. And that is something over which you have control; therefore, it’s not about blaming the other person but having the self-awareness to end the relationship if it’s the right thing to do.
Barbara herself was an absolute joy to interview — filled with wisdom, humor, inspiration, passion and a sense of morality. She admitted that having an affair was a “destructive” way to assert her independence and end her marriage and advised against other women committing similar wrongs. Through her charity the Mother Lover Fighter Sage Foundation, she also supports the wives of Wounded Warriors by treating them to a “Spa Day.” To listen to the interview, click below.
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It wasn’t until our guest effusively held up Hillary Clinton and Beyonce as role-models that I experienced visible disgust — mostly with myself for not challenging that erroneous idea, or at least offering my own suggestion (yep, Sarah Palin would’ve been a great one). Since LLL is supposed to be a Happy Hour/non-combative format, I remained clammed up. Ok, I’ll admit I also didn’t want to anger my co-hosts (one of whom had a sore throat and could barely speak), or put our guest on the spot.
But seriously, Hillary? Beyonce?
The former, who enabled by corrupt colleagues and a complicit media, has literally gotten away with the murder of four Americans in Benghazi and idolizes an avowed racist/eugenicist, Margaret Sanger? And Beyonce, whose pornographic performance at last year’s Super Bowl was anything but family-friendly?
Is self-objectification the new empowerment? Because if it is, count me out.
Barbara expressed unbridled enthusiasm over Beyonce’s answer to the question: Who is the most important person in your life? (Hint: it wasn’t Jesus, her mother, her father, her husband, her child or any being — supernatural or human — outside of herself). In Beyonce’s world, SHE is the most important person in her life. I guess unabashed self-centeredness is the new philanthropy. As for me, I’d be curious to witness how Beyonce treats the little people — you know, waitresses, baggage handlers at the airport, manicurists, masseuses, make-up artists and countless others who aren’t nearly as important yet somehow manage to contribute well to the quality of her pampered, privileged life.
Anyway, when a friend called me out on my silence on the show last night, I figured the best way to make restitution was via my blog. Admittedly, it’s the coward’s way out because I can type out anything I want for as long as I want without interruption or push-back. However if anything, this experience has taught me to rethink my on-air actions next time I’m confronted with a similar situation. It’s an opportunity to gently, politely and effectively push back against pop culture indoctrination. I’m thinking I can do that in less than 1100+ words.
Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions? I’m open to them!