Book Review of ‘The Body Keeps The Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma’

My book review of The Body Keeps The Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk is now posted on Amazon.com. It seems fitting to publish it during PTSD Awareness Month, now with the perspective of someone with first-hand experience in dealing with this problem in a loved one. In my free time, I’ve spent the past few months educating myself and exploring every valid treatment option.

While some of the case studies Dr. van der Kolk includes in the book are difficult to read (horrible child abuse in every possible form), they also prove that with the right approach, even the worst experiences can be overcome. He also offers an understandable description/distinction between traumatic memory and normal memory — helpful in recognizing why it’s not possible for people with PTSD to simply “get over it” without the proper treatment (which usually means a combination of therapies).

In their justifiable reaction to helicopter parenting, coddling, and the “everybody wins a trophy” nonsense, I find that some (not all) conservatives seem to dismiss the real problem of PTSD caused by early childhood trauma and the fact that actual child abuse does exist. Now I cringe when I see memes about how being beaten with a belt as a child helped someone grow into a responsible adult.

When I reunited with my guy after two decades, I had no idea that his background included horrific abuse from both parents (physical beatings, emotional torture, and ZERO affection), compounded by subsequent combat experience in the Navy. I met him right after his service in 1992 and after reading this book, I understand why those memories were suppressed 26 years ago.

After multiple emotional conversations with him, I find myself thanking God even more for my upbringing in a loving, stable home. At first, I even felt a twinge of guilt for being blessed with two good parents and four siblings. Home was a haven for me — not a place I feared to return to after school. But his entire childhood and adolescence was rooted in fear.

Sure, my parents disciplined and raised my brothers, sister, and me to be responsible, productive people. But it didn’t involve prolonged beatings with objects like bats and belts. That’s something I wish more conservatives and people in general would acknowledge.

Read my Amazon review here.

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The Writestream: Lost, Found & Rewired with Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D.

The Writestream: Lost, Found & Rewired with Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D.

I’m excited to welcome a newly published Writestream author to my show on Wednesday, October 11 at 11 AM Eastern. Please tune in for an informative, fun discussion on Lost Found & Rewired: Mind Tools to Shift You from Stressed and Frazzled to Calm and Vital with Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D.:

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. The world has changed at lightning speed over the last two decades. As a result, most of us are living our lives in a frantic blur of incessant emails, social media engagement, text messages as well as an over-abundance of multi-tasking – which leaves our minds in a state of low concentration, high stress and fragmented attention. Our minds are wasting away in this damaging environment which has become a normal way of life for the majority of people. Lost, Found & Rewired will give you the tools you need to shut off that distracting mind chatter, rewire your brains so you can get back to feeling calm, happy, purposeful, connected and joyful. When you understand how your brain has evolved, then you will be able to learn how to re-wire it and reap the endless benefits.

Written by a neuro-psychologist, but taught in language that everyone can understand. Here’s some of what you’ll discover in this exceptional book: How your brain conserves energy so it can survive and makes decisions on automatic pilot that may not be in your best interest Why your brain has something in it called a “negativity bias” which causes you to attract the bad and repel the good How negative experiences in your life become neural pathways in your brain, requiring re-wiring to replace the harmful effects Understanding that a big part of your brain isn’t full developed and as a result, is causing chaos in your life How the fight or flight response dictates your life if you aren’t aware of it Why a few moments of intentional stillness a day can have a huge impact in your life Understanding that you have an Inner Caveman lurking around your mind and ways you can get him under control Dozens of Mind Tools that will raise your happiness levels and reduce your anxiety levels that you can add to your daily life How to identify and remove the biggest stressors in your life Ways to handle the daily overload in our lives How to shift from the negative to the positive – even though your brain doesn’t want you to The emotional, mental, spiritual and physical benefits of mindfulness Lost, Found & ReWired is filled with real stories, exercises, the latest research studies and tools to help take you from frazzled and fragmented to cool and calm! This is a must read for everyone who wants to quiet their minds and find more inner happiness, peace and joy.

Cynthia’s bio:

Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D., has been in the “Helping” business for over two decades. You can reach Cynthia at her website: www.gratefulpeaceofmind.com

Her all-embracing wisdom comes from her training as a Wellness and Life Coach, a Certified Meditation Teacher, and a Certified School Psychologist. Cynthia also holds a Ph.D. in Human and Child Development, a Master’s degree in Family Therapy and a Certificate in Neuropsychology.

Cynthia has practiced in a wide variety of settings including a clinical practice, schools, hospitals and major corporations. Cynthia now combines her psychology and therapy training with her love and passion and for neuroscience and mindfulness. Cynthia believes that bringing mindfulness into your life both personally and in business will help you optimize your ability to create and live a happy, joyous and fulfilling life. Awareness is the foundation of who we are and what we do and is the key to self-knowledge, transformation and being able to not just survive in the stressful world we live in, but to really thrive! Cynthia helps people reduce their stress by teaching them how their brain operates and then showing them how to re-wire their brains using simple mind tools. Cynthia enjoys coaching people in using mind tools to live a more fulfilling, happier and less fear-driven life.

During the interview, we welcome your questions at (347) 945-7246. To stream the episode, click here on Wednesday October 11 at 11 AM Eastern.

Preview and purchase Lost Found & Rewired on Amazon.com in Kindle or paperback.

UPDATE: Missed the live interview? Click to listen.

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Lost, Found & Rewired: Mind Tools to Shift You from Stressed and Frazzled to Calm and Vital

Lost, Found & Rewired: Mind Tools to Shift You from Stressed and Frazzled to Calm and Vital

Congratulations to Writestream Author Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D. on the release of her first book!

The mind is a terrible thing to waste. The world has changed at lightning speed over the last two decades. As a result, most of us are living our lives in a frantic blur of incessant emails, social media engagement, text messages as well as an over-abundance of multi-tasking – which leaves our minds in a state of low concentration, high stress and fragmented attention. Our minds are wasting away in this damaging environment which has become a normal way of life for the majority of people. Lost, Found & Rewired will give you the tools you need to shut off that distracting mind chatter, rewire your brains so you can get back to feeling calm, happy, purposeful, connected and joyful. When you understand how your brain has evolved, then you will be able to learn how to re-wire it and reap the endless benefits.

Written by a neuro-psychologist, but taught in language that everyone can understand.

Here’s some of what you’ll discover in this exceptional book:

  • How your brain conserves energy so it can survive and makes decisions on automatic pilot that may not be in your best interest
  • Why your brain has something in it called a “negativity bias” which causes you to attract the bad and repel the good
  • How negative experiences in your life become neural pathways in your brain, requiring re-wiring to replace the harmful effects
  • Understanding that a big part of your brain isn’t full developed and as a result, is causing chaos in your life
  • How the fight or flight response dictates your life if you aren’t aware of it
  • Why a few moments of intentional stillness a day can have a huge impact in your life
  • Understanding that you have an Inner Caveman lurking around your mind and ways you can get him under control
  • Dozens of Mind Tools that will raise your happiness levels and reduce your anxiety levels that you can add to your daily life
  • How to identify and remove the biggest stressors in your life
  • Ways to handle the daily overload in our lives
  • How to shift from the negative to the positive – even though your brain doesn’t want you to

The emotional, mental, spiritual and physical benefits of mindfulness Lost, Found & ReWired is filled with real stories, exercises, the latest research studies and tools to help take you from frazzled and fragmented to cool and calm! This is a must read for everyone who wants to quiet their minds and find more inner happiness, peace and joy.

 

About Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D.

Cynthia Dougherty, Ph.D., has been in the “Helping” business for over two decades. You can reach Cynthia at her website: www.gratefulpeaceofmind.com Her all-embracing wisdom comes from her training as a Wellness and Life Coach, a Certified Meditation Teacher, and a Certified School Psychologist. Cynthia also holds a Ph.D. in Human and Child Development, a Master’s degree in Family Therapy and a Certificate in Neuropsychology. Cynthia has practiced in a wide variety of settings including a clinical practice, schools, hospitals and major corporations. Cynthia now combines her psychology and therapy training with her love and passion and for neuroscience and mindfulness. Cynthia believes that bringing mindfulness into your life both personally and in business will help you optimize your ability to create and live a happy, joyous and fulfilling life. Awareness is the foundation of who we are and what we do and is the key to self-knowledge, transformation and being able to not just survive in the stressful world we live in, but to really thrive! Cynthia helps people reduce their stress by teaching them how their brain operates and then showing them how to re-wire their brains using simple mind tools. Cynthia enjoys coaching people in using mind tools to live a more fulfilling, happier and less fear-driven life.

To preview and purchase the book in paperback and Kindle, visit Amazon.com. Discover more about Cynthia at her website www.gratefulpeaceofmind.com.

Check out the Writestream Publishing Author Spotlight here. And if you would like to discuss your project with us, contact us to schedule your no-obligation consultation today.

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